How to Open Yourself to God

What is God like?

When God begins to pursue you and draw you into a relationship with himself, at some point you will experience a lingering and deep desire to open yourself to him. This is because God has known and loved you from all eternity and you are beginning to feel him connect with you. But, sometimes when one becomes aware of that desire to open themselves to God, they feel somehow blocked or held back. That generally means that one has conscious or subconscious beliefs about God that do not come from who he really is. Those beliefs and perceptions generate emotions that put the brakes on trusting him the way an innocent child can run into the arms of his gentle, joyful and affectionate father.

One simple remedy for those misconceptions is to look at Jesus. Look at what he said, and what he did. As you do, he who is Truth will shine the light of his face into your heart, into you inner self, so that you can see how lavishly good God really is. Then you can fully open yourself to him. Then you can come to him with all your needs, all your regrets, all your flaws and misdeeds. You can run to him and tell him all, and he will forgive you and wash the very core of your being and make you clean.

Looking at Jesus, we see that he called God, “Father.” He also said that if you had seen him, you had seen the Father, and that he and the Father are one. So, the words and the works of Jesus in the Gospels show us the heart of the Father. These Gospels (Matthew, Mark, Luke and John in the New Testament) are the eyewitness accounts of the life, death and resurrection of Christ. If you want to read them, you might start with Mark and then read John. In these accounts, and from other places in God’s Word, we can see and summarize the following truths about God. After each statement we have included references from the Bible so that, if you want, you can look them up on your own:

Things that are true of God 

God is the eternal Father, and he is not distant and uninterested in you. He is personally present with you and is seeking you. He wants your attention and a relationship with you. He has good plans to give you a future and a hope, and he has already prepared works in advance for you to do in partnership with him. (Psalm 139:1-18; Matthew 28:30; Jeremiah 29:11; Ephesians 2:10)

Father God is not insensitive, unknowing and uncaring towards you. He is kind and compassionate and knows every single thing about you. (Psalm 103:8014; 1 John 3:1-3; Hebews 4:12,13)

The Father is not stern, and he has not placed unrealistic expectations on you. When you sincerely turn to him, he freely accepts you and joyfully supports you. (Luke 15:11-32; Romans 5:8-11; Romans 15:17)

God is not passive and cold. He is warm and affectionate toward you. (Isaiah 40:11’ Hosea 11:3,4)

God is not absent or too busy for you. He is always present and eager to be with you and to enable you to be all that he created you to be. (Philippians 1:6; Hebrews 13:5)

He is not an impatient, angry man who is shouting and waving his arms. Even if you reject him, he desires to embrace you and works to win your love. He is patient and slow to anger. When he does discipline, it is not rejection. It is him faithfully freeing you from self-destruction, and it is motivated by his love for you. (Exodus 34:6; Romans 2:4; Hebrews 12:5-11)

God has not and never will be mean, cruel or abusive towards you. The truth is that Satan and his demons are mean, cruel and abusive, but God is loving, gentle and protective. (Psalm 18:2; Matthew 11:28-30; Ephesians 6:10-18)

God is not denying you the pleasures of life. The Father is the author of life and, if you open to him and follow, he will lead you into love, joy and peace. (Lamentations 3:22,23; Galatians 5:22-24)

God is not trying to control and manipulate you. He will set you free from negative and compulsive attitudes, habits, addictions and demonic control. He will give you the freedom to grow in his grace. (Galatians 5:1; Hebrews 4:15,16)

God loves mercy and not judgment. He loves to forgive and embrace. When you sincerely turn your self and your life back to God, he freely and completely forgives all your sins and will never use them against you in the future. (Jeremiah 31:31-34; Romans 8:1)

When you turn to God, he becomes your Father and you become his beloved child. He will not reject you when you fail to live a perfect or sinless life. He is patient, and is right there to immediately pick you up, cleanse you, encourage you and go forward with you. He is the perfect Father and he is committed to you.

Talk to God and he will draw near to you

Say the following prayer aloud to God. Repeat it a few times and say it for a few days. Allow your own heart to hear the words so that it opens to the presence of God and what he has for you.

Father, I believe You are the eternal God, and Jesus is Your Son. I believe that You love me and sent Your Son to show me what a good, loving, protective, and powerful Father You are. I believe that Your Son Jesus lived a perfect and pure life, and then died on a cross as the punishment and sacrifice for my sins. For me You planned that on the cross, he was condemned that I might be forgiven. He was rejected and alienated, that I might be accepted and adopted by You. He was exposed and abandoned, that I might be protected. He was wounded and broken, that I might be healed. I believe that You did this for me through the death of Your Son. Thank You for giving up Your Son to make me Your child and to make me whole, and for raising him from the dead.

Lord Jesus, I believe that You are alive and that You are standing right before me. I open the door to my heart and life, and I ask You to come in and make me the kind of person You want me to be. I choose to follow You, and I confess that You, Jesus, are my Lord. I turn from my sins and trust You now to forgive and cleanse me. I especially turn from ___________ (name specific sins that dominate your thoughts and actions, and that you may even be ashamed of – speak right to Jesus and tell him). Free me from the weight of these things. I look to You to fill me and strengthen me with Your indwelling presence. I receive and accept the lavish and free gift of total forgiveness. I believe that Your sacrifice on the cross is more than enough to meet my need for forgiveness, wash my spirit clean from sin and darkness, and restore me to intimately knowing God as my Father. I open my heart to believe and receive the joy that comes from You forgiving me and removing my guilt and shame. Thank You. Thank You for making me clean and new in my spirit, and for joining me to Yourself and living in me by Your Spirit. I now belong to You, and You belong to me.

Assurance from God

God himself gives you an inner assurance when you believe that he is moved by and responds to your repentance and your faith in his Son Jesus Christ. Listen to what God has said in his word, the Bible:

Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him, and will dine with him, and he with Me. (Revelation 3:20)

As many as received him, to them he gave the right to become children of God, even to those who believe in his name. (John 1:12)


God has given us eternal life, and this life is in his Son. He who has the Son has the life. He who does not have the Son of God does not have the life. These things I have written to you who believe in the name of the Son of God, in order that you may know that you have eternal life. (1 John 5:11-13)

The one who joins himself to the Lord is one spirit with him.
(1 Corinthians 6:17)

The Spirit himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God. (Romans 816)


You can trust these words in the Bible. In summary, Jesus calls us. If you hear his voice, open the door to your life and heart, and invite him in, he comes and literally dwells within you. Because you now entrust yourself to the Lord Jesus and have received him, God adopts you as his very own child, and he has become your Father.

The pure and holy eternal life of God the Father is in his Son. Whoever receives and has the Son, has this eternal life of God himself. God wants you to know that you have eternal life with him now and forever because you have received his Son. Christ comes into you by his Spirit and becomes one with your own human spirit. The Holy Spirit bears witness to your own spirit that you are now a child of God. When you repent, believe, and receive Christ, the Holy Spirit lets you know that God is now your Father and Jesus is your Lord and Savior.

God is your Father, heaven is your home, and Jesus lives in you by the Holy Spirit. The Bible is food and power for your spirit, light for your mind, and the main thing that God uses to talk to you.